Now that Kyle and I are a little more settled in, I’ve been reflecting on what we could tell our friends who have yet to have the experience of a PCS move.
1. Budget– This seems silly but it might take awhile for your reimbursement to come in, and no one likes to feel as though money is too tight to buy a slurpee or go out for a drink.
2. Write a list of your necessary buys– I have no idea where Kyle and I went wrong but it seemed like on our first house shopping trip we bought everything we saw. I really feel like if we had waited to do most of it, we would have been just fine.
3. Shop around– Other than your bed, there is no piece of furniture that you ABSOLUTELY need right away. Shopping around, using online sites, and asking the locals is perhaps the smartest thing you can do. Buying most of your furniture right away would make life easier but honestly, if you have a soft bed and a roof protecting you, you will be ok. Kyle and I bought our couch, dining set, desk, and coffee table with a week or two between each other and it turned out fine.
4. Think about adopting a pet- The adjustment period is so hard for a couple when it seems like they left all of their friends behind and don’t have people to turn to. If you are like me, you’ll be changing your life quite a bit, and it is hard to move across the country and be unemployed with nothing to do while your husband is gone. Kyle and I looked for a dog the minute we moved into our apartment, and it took awhile to find one. But, Odin has made our lives so much smoother, he has gone through the transition with us and has been a positive influence on our relationship through these changes.
5. Volunteer– Giving back to the community you moved to will help you feel more established as well as let you meet people. Especially if you feel like you are always on base or always at home, volunteering will get you out and let yo. experience your town in a new way.
6. Make a list of places to visit– If you are new to travelling the country, make a list of the things (landmarks, restaurants, local sights) that you think you might like. This is a great way to learn about your new home and have fun while doing it. Again, ask the locals what they recommend. Sometimes it can be fun to look up restaurants from TV shows such as Diners, Drive-Ins and Dives. Kyle and I have had man fun date nights this way.
7. Pick “Your Spot”– When I say this I am referring to a restaurant that you might frequent, but if you choose another spot, that’ll work just as well. Finding your spot will help you associate yourself with being a local, this is your new home and you should want to be excited to be living there.
8. Make a routine– Though it may seem small, a set routine that you can count of will make transition smoother and life a lot more fun. With a routine you can know each others schedules and it makes the time fly by and the transition more fun.
9. Keep in contact with friends– This has been a very hard lesson for me to learn. I wanted my friends to take the time to contact me and to want to talk to me but that isn’t always the case. Sometimes you might be hesitant to be bothering them or they might think you’re too busy with your move to talk.
10. Make time to relax, as a couple– This is your new home for at least a bit, you should want to explore the town and meet people, but it is also important to have down time to appreciate your new surroundings and be comfortable in your home. Have a night in, make dinner, sleep in one weekend and make time to explore. Moving is all about taking the leap and being comfortable in your new home. Have fun, explore, and don’t be afraid to ask questions to anyone if you need to. Happy PCS-ing!